im 23 and people are still remembering stuff I was accused of when i was about 13/16 ?(the times i actively played VU consistently) lol 

You made quite the impression Kath lol 

depends on the wife :P One of my dad's friend have 3 wives lol and he live just fine. :d

00:12:37 May 17th 17 - Lord Oghene of Delta:

If she sees what I wrote, VU will never hear from TBL ever again :|

(modern men are so docile and submissive nowadays.... not "alpha" at all *sob*)



So how was your holiday Binh? You went to Vietnam? Did you find a potential wife or two for yourself there?

it was so profound in fact, that he said it twice

lol i deleted what i said because i don't want to start an argument. 

A week seems way to quick to decide marriage to me :D Hard to tell if it's love or just lust/interest in only a week. 

Lol is it weird that I imagined binh's dad with his arms wrapped around binhs weist in the bed while binh was secretly finger banging his future wife's hand xD

Hmmm..... at least you are having an easier time finding a wife than I ever did, Binh. I had a pretty tough time finding a girlfriend back in my much younger days because I was a late bloomer physically :D

I am no love expert. Heck, I am boxed in by many parameters limiting my own experience in this field - I have had only 2 girlfriends my entire life. The second one was my girlfriend for 10 years, and now my wife for 2. Anything I say here is just based on my limited experience and observations of the people around me.

All deep, meaningful and long term relationships in life are essentially the result of a gamble, a roll of the dice. When you choose a mate, that is a dice roll right there. And its not just one roll, but a series of rolls over the years, as the couple face crises, good fortune and changing circumstances in life. You roll the dice many times to hope that she sticks by you in your bad times and her good times, that she will forever remain supportive, kind, caring, hardworking, thrifty, that her good heart and good head will not change with the circumstances or the seasons. She rolls her dice with the same hopes in mind, that the Binh she marries (maybe :P) will stay the handsome, dashing lad she saw in the picture, that the intellect evidenced by his mathematics degree remains and is put to constant good use, that the good and gentle nature you have will never change, that you will be a good husband, father and provider to the immediate family and maybe the expended one too, that you will forever remain a god of VU... (last one not important for health of relationships though....).

And thus, from that basis, I have seen:

- couples who fell in love with one another at first sight and built a long, happy, thriving, ever-lasting relationship;

- couples who fell in love with one another at first sight, and then fall equally fast out of love with one another somewhere down the line;

- couples who had no feelings for one another immediately, but gradually built their reservoir of affection and bond for one another over the years, and at the end of their lifetimes, they could not bear to part from one another;

- couples who, after some time spent getting to know one another, thought they had feelings for one another, decided to settle down, and found out that they were actually incompatible with one another in many core ways;

- couples who had arranged marriages and have built a relationship and a working team more loving and better than most other couples who connected mainly because of love;

- couples who had arranged marriages and it turned out very vexing and unhappy for the both of them..... and their extended family too! :P;

and many others.

For my part, I came from the category of couples who.... did not fall in love at first sight or at first three weeks. Did not have any good (or bad) impression of my wife when we first got to know each other. Ditto for her as well... she actually first thought of me as a skinny, bossy, VERY NERDY bloke overextending himself in studying for a professional qualification while trying to work 45 hours a week at the same time. Gradually, over a three month period, as we got to know one another better, we thought that, hmmm.... this guy / girl ain't too bad after-all; he / she is has a good, decent heart beating within his / her chest, and a good head screwed onto his / her shoulders, and a decent, morally clean outlook on life. Our feelings got deeper, and we thought about giving a relationship a shot. My second one, her first time in a relationship. Oh, I must add that when I first got to know my wife, I thought her very plain looking - a simple, ordinary girl from Shanghai. It was only one month into our relationship (and four months after I got to know her) that, when I observed her combing her hair in the mirror, I just realized.... hang on a moment!!! You're actually very pretty.... about an 8 / 10! (I get ribbed and teased about this level of blindness all the time and how my ancestors must be looking out for me because I kinda lucked out here :P)

But that's not the foundation of our relationship. The foundation of our relationship is that we have gone through many ups and downs over the past 12 years. We actually had a long distance relationship for 7 of the 12 years, where we could see each other only 3 or 4 times a year (I do not know of any other couple who pulled off such a feat of staying true and loyal to one another under such circumstances.... except maybe for my parents :P), we had many issues that could easily have resulted in a split up.... but we endured and got through it.... and now, we're settled down. Have a 16 month old child. Leading a pretty good station in life (note to all males.... MUST FIND a wife that is thrifty with money and low maintenance!!!). And I can't really contemplate a life separate from her now.... (except when she catches me playing VU and starts getting... unhappy....).

Plus she had rejected a billionaire suitor (divorcee who was a very early investor in Xiaomi - still holds a very significant block of shares in it, and also runs his own VC fund in China) to stay with a simple, not-much-money-at-that-time me.....

My wife has earned my loyalty for a very long time, maybe forever!!! ....Except maybe when she catches me playing VU, that is... :P

So what am I trying to say with all of the rambling above? Basically man.... you will never know whether what you are feeling now is love, but from MY point of view.... REAL LOVE.... is built up over time and has had its strength tested through BAD times AND GOOD times.

For me.... if you are going to face the war on life for the next 30 - 50 years, you will have a much greater chance at victory (maybe even over 50%) when you have a great woman and partner by your side to fight with you. As the Chinese say (in some way...): if your household life is secure and harmonious, you, the man, can go out to the battlefield to fight the demons and evils with a calm, contented, peaceful, assured and secured heart :)

So yeah, in conclusion... whoever you pick as your life partner, do A LOT of farming! Love farming, that is :P (make sure to build at least 4 90K cities so that your relationship and family can test the trials of life. Add in mass-NAPping too, and screw those who tell you to go and fight OOP wars straight away if there is no need to!) ^_^



P.S. Now if your love and relationship dice rolls are as rigged as Zeta's one when you try to cast AOTD six times at >60% chance and fail EVERY ONE of them.... just remember this.... Don't. Rage. Quit. On. Your. Relationship.

Unless she goes inactive of course :P

Oh, Binh is sharing his love story. What a new one. BTW, Binh, I'm also interested with a Viet lady in Ho Chi Minh. We usually chat everyday.

I'm planning to go there also soon.
Maybe we can introduce to Viets VU? Haha!

In a side note, atleast they have a 100 percent victory rate.

yup 100% since the beginning . 

You could have had an interesting war by not forming instantly an alliance between the two biggest kds.

@Binh

And its already begun! You future wife has started to mark her territory and lay down boundaries. I predict that once you have placed the Master Ring on her finger, she will immediately use its power to challenge you in a battle for domination and control in the household and the relationship, a battle which you will promptly, swiftly, and probably meekly lose, and you will end up as her very own Ringwraith, subject to her every command and whim. Note, nazguls may not be included in this relationship. And your battle power might not be 160 / 160 either :P

Re: my wall of text like Barny... well, I've always been a lover of long-form journalism and huge book tomes. I don't look too highly upon short articles that consist of nothing substantial except for soundbites and short "life-hack" type lists. From a great long-form article, you can dive deep into the oceans of knowledge, understand the context surrounding you, and maybe even extract pearls of wisdom and enlightenment from the ocean floors. Folks who just skim the surface of good, deep articles, especially with today's TL / DR culture and attitude, are one step closer to being at the bottom of the food chain. And that's the way I like it! Less competition for me and my loved ones in life!

Just remember, my friend, it is (relatively) easy to find a wife nowadays (especially if you are not a loser like me :P). However, building a happy, long-term marriage for the next 30 years or 50 years? That's an achievement that is very very rarely unlocked in modern times and requires nothing but the most Herculean efforts and stamina. The pain factor multiplies once you have kids. But if it is an achievement you CAN unlock? Then you will have a stability and peace of mind at home, something that also eludes many of us too. And that, is a sweet, awesome feeling :)

That is just a ridiculous point. As if you backed off to give us time to defend against DR anyways. The only reason you didn't continue the attack was so you could keep members farming so you don't get run over by DR when they quit their farming spree.Your whole post is a joke. If you really wanted an interesting fight you wouldn't have NAPed the second biggest kingdom while being the biggest.

Exactly, I've had that conversion with the wife, Jasmina.

That's also how my marriage works. 

Here is your lesson.

looks like DR got bored of weeks of playing Harvest Moon and might come out to play! 

I'm not suprised :P maybe if they win without any fun fights they won't do it again ^^

They might not win you never know  trolololo

In order to make this a quick era

tbl do i detect a note of sarcasm?